一个同学打电话问我对他做一个决定的看法。在两个选择上，他有些不确定到底选择哪一个。显然，任何一个决定都是有风险的。我只是再次提醒他关注于两个选择之间的风险和回报，关注重要的因素，而不是被眼前一些其实并不重要的事情所影响。

      我所说的只是我的想法，最终还要他自己做出选择。在给建议的时候，我会毫无保留。我的理念是，只有在坦诚的情形下给出的建议才能够帮助他更好地思考。如果考虑他未来可能会因为不理想的结果而对我有所看法，那我就不可能给出具有实质性作用的建议。因为我这样的话，我考虑的重点不是帮助他解决问题，而是如何才能避免日后遭受埋怨。

      我坦诚地说出我的看法，只是最后补充了一句。听别人的意见，做自己的决定，自己承担结果，永远都不要去抱怨给你建议的人，而是应当心怀感激之情。只有这样，你才能在每次向别人征求意见的时候，听到让你有所思考的建议。

以下是观看Wall E 的个人想法。影片信息请见 http://www.douban.com/subject/2131459/

      walle 和eva十指相扣，却落不下泪水。
若真的有一天，地球变成了垃圾场，人类早已移居太空。地球上剩下的，只是在清理垃圾的机器人。
walle在无休止地清理着地球上的垃圾，渐渐地他有了感觉，他找到各种各样的好玩的东西，在清理垃圾之余，他在自娱自乐，但他感到很孤单，因为和他一起来到地球的其他机器人都因为不适应地球的环境而停止工作的时候，walle在孤独地工作着。
当walle见到eva的时候，他是那么的开心。walle拿出他收藏的各种各样的玩具，仅仅是为了让eva开心一笑。看着walle那傻傻的样子，我却一点也笑不出来。
历经磨难，回到地球。eva拿着walle曾经讨她开心的魔方、打火机 来唤起walle的回忆的时候，walle却显得那么的茫然。walle 对eva的表现熟视无睹，转身继续去清理垃圾。
当看到eva拉起walle的手，他们十指相扣，我落下了泪水。

well, I don’t think it’s a suitable title for what I want to talk abou today.

You must know Liu xiang, but do you know Shi Dongpeng? Have you think of him and his life? I always imagine how Shi lives his life in the shadow of Liu. Does he think that he can surpass someday? It’s not a good case to live in the shadow of some other people. When people celebrate for Liu, NO flower, applause, attention will pay to Shi. And this is Shi’s life.

Today, I read a piece of article 奔跑者 about Shi in 《环球企业家》. In the artile, I know more about him and his inner world. The article said that Shi want to use another meaning of stronger, bearing the "second" which is neglected, balance the troubling competition relation, and keep on self-improving.

In fact, in our daily life, most of us are living like Shi. We won’t win applause or flower, but we have to go on living with it. Those who does best at the time will win most, if not all, attention, honor, applause. But life is not a battle, it is marathon. We should be patient, learn how to live in the shadow of others’, and find the success for us.

Take time to think of Shi, why he keeps on run 110 meters hurdle? What should he choose what to do about his life?  And how about you?

I subscribed blogs about GTD(Getting Things Done) and read articles about how to GTD.

It’s worth to take time to learn about GTD, which will rewards for your time on it. As far as I’m concerned, the first principle of GTD is

One time do one thing!

We are in the time of surrounded by so many things and disturbance. Even if I write this article, I listen to audio articles of Knowledge Wharton, my gmail account is online, google reader, douban, my MSN and TM are online, luckily, no one talks with me when I write it. Oh, I nearlly forget about my cellphone. As I’m no body, few people will disturb me. While if you are some body, it’s always the case that you are disturbed from time to time.

When I’m in Office, the life is rather busy. Today,  mails I received are more than 30, attended a meeting, and check products propaganda booklets with more than 10 categories, submitted 5 skus and check condistions of more than 30 skus. oh, let alone the communication with colleagues and phone call.

How to deal with many things? Focus, one time do one thing. I use an excel file to follow up all the things I’m engaged in, writing down the process of them, check whether they are done or not, who is in turn now, Should I urge him/her?

Don’t let too many things  occupy your mind, write them down, and do one thing a time. Don’t let other things interrupt you until you finish the thing you’re doing.

None of us can have more than 24 hours a day. We should make use of time, be the master of time, rather than being slaved.

If you’re interested, take time to read the following article:

Stoooopid …. why the Google generation isn’t as smart as it thinks  http://technology.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/tech_and_web/the_web/article4362950.ece

or Chinese Version:为什么Google一代没想象中那么聪明？ http://www.yeeyan.com/articles/view/Evelen/11168

Ps: I used to use Greatnews to read blog, while now transfer to Google reader, that’s because I have to use different computers when I’m in office and at home.

接到某位同同的mail，发现收件人里面有着长长的名单。想起曾经收到过的FW:FW:FW:FW，在FW的里面，看到各个公司的人的email list。

     如果不是很有必要放在to的那里，我觉得bcc给所有人会好一点，这样可以避免你的收件人的list从此被转发到不知道什么地方去了。

     附：北美跨国公司里的生存笔记在《公司内部电邮的潜规则－I》说到了关于邮件的To 和CC的规则，其实不是什么“潜规则”，而是常规则。

看了Jeux d’enfants / 两小无猜，我的感慨就是：人生短暂，何苦这么折腾。

爱，就是我们每天生活中的细节。不要试图为了证明别人有多么爱你而让对方去做一些稀奇古怪的事情。我们都活得很累，都有太多的事情要做，都经不起折腾。

一旦折腾多了，很多事情，真的也成了假的，假的也成了真的。

选择猜疑的人，常常最后事情就如TA所想的那样。因为猜疑，所以TA会试图用种种事情去“考验”对方，来否则TA自己的猜疑。但考验的事情，往往是倾向于猜疑的发生，或者，会让对方付出某种代价的。这种的事情经历多了，对方往往难以忍受。于是，最终，猜疑最终变成了现实。而TA这时很感慨地说：“我的猜疑果然是对的。”但TA没有想过，其实事情原本不是TA猜疑的那样，是TA的猜疑和TA的行动，使得最初猜疑成真。

不要太多的猜疑，多信任对方一点。生活，简单一点，信任多一点。如果你真的有什么，那就坦白的告诉对方，说出你内心的想法。

当然，信任，也有被欺骗的时候。但要我选择，我宁愿选择信任而被欺骗，也不愿意为了证明猜疑而不断地考验对方。我相信，人和人交往的基础是信任，而不是猜疑。我不需要用种种的事情去“考验”对方，我只要在每天的日常生活中，对方会对我好就可以。生活，就是每天发生的琐碎的事情。